Sunday, December 16, 2018

No Do-Overs

After Learning all scientific theories and becoming highly educated persons in the world, then if the people do not destroy their pride and ego through Self-Inquiry, there is no use of their illusionary achievements.

The uneducated people are better than them.

The pride of acquiring Education, the desire for appreciation and fame are subject matters for discouragement.

That Education is not at all education and real knowledge.

The Education which paves the way for searching the Truth, the education which inculcates obedience in them is the superior education. It will make them humble and honest people to behave with a sense of equality towards all in the World.
Sri Ramana Maharshi


If you've made it this far you must be fascinated by the above quote. Personally, I was attracted and repulsed by it. Now, a year later, I am attracted to the direction it indicates.

Let me explain.

I am very aware from personal experience of the pride, ego and desire that Sri Ramana introduces here. My education carried me through an MBA in a very conservative school that basically taught that greed was good. At the same time I was studying Zen Buddhism at the Rochester Zen Center, so was somewhat balanced, or confused, in turns.

Self-Inquiry can help destroy pride and ego. The suffering that comes with relationships based on self-will makes made me receptive.

It's the obedience that I always have a hard time with! I, for various reasons, have not trusted many teachers and superiors very much. So this came with difficulty to me.

Then I realized that I was an iconoclast, challenging cherished beliefs or venerated institutions on the grounds that they are erroneous or pernicious. It was a reflexive action, not a conscious choice.

I mentioned that suffering makes one receptive. That made all the difference and tipped the scales for me towards Self-Inquiry. It became evident that the more I pushed, tried to understand and came up with fixes and solutions, the more personal suffering followed. Not to mention the suffering my efforts brought to others. 


Quite a shock to realize that all the evaluation, analysis and problem solving I spent my waking hours doing was not helping, and in many cases really doing harm to the ones I loved.


This didn't happen overnight. Unfortunately. My grip on coming to terms with all of this involved a lot of ''trying to understand" which, according to my oldest child, turned out to be a weird way of controlling others behavior through relentless questioning.


A client of mine then told me something that made sense. In difficult relationships don't Question, Suggest, or Advise. Unfortunately for me it was too little too late. They took my quiescence in a different way.


Now I'm quietly working on becoming a humble and honest person behaving with a sense of equality towards all in the world. Who Am I? is the question I ask to guide me.